Breaking Up With An Unbeliever

Written by Warren |Posted on October 19, 2008 | Comments

before I met Hazel I had a girlfriend
we’ve been together for 8yrs
she’s not a believer
our church was rebuking me for this
telling me not to be yoked together with an unbeliever
but I didn’t listen
I thought by being together with my unbelieving girlfriend, I might persuade her into church
and become a believer as well
but as years went by she still didn’t show any signs of convictions
she was attending church with me so that she can be with me
until our church rebuked me seriously and made me choose between Christ or my girlfriend
I wanted to be a Christian, but I loved my girlfriend
and I might win her to Christ
so i chose my girlfriend
and left the church and never showed up nor even informed anyone
after 5yrs of being together I still couldn’t convince her to turn to Christ
all my plans seemed to have failed
I was missing church already
hungering for the meat of the Word
because preaching expositionally is very rare nowadays
most churches would water down the gospel
shallowing it for the masses
hiding the truth about repentance
telling them all they want to hear
unlike in our church
there wasn’t a Sunday that I heard the word “repentance”
so on the 5th yr of my turning away from our church
I was already very cold
I didn’t read Christian books no more
the books in my shelves were more of psychology or business
and Christian books didn’t appeal to me like before
and it was at that time that I caught my girlfriend cheating on me
so since then I couldn’t accept her anymore
I had major breakdowns
I was crying in public places
I was crying all the time literally for 2 weeks
after that the pain was still there
I wanted to go back to Church
but I felt so ashamed
I even went to stage acting
took up photography
but non of them gave peace in my mind
so I went to a church where my highschool friends went
but that church wasn’t also that good for me
I didn’t feel the nourishment of my soul
the Word of God wasn’t much emphasized
no leaders or deacons were there that I could consult with
I had major issues and I was looking to talk to someone from that church
but it was abiding with the Watchman Nee system
they believe that having leaders, pastors, deacons is unbiblical
how twisted is that?
so after 4months attending there I thought to myself to turn back and get serious about my spiritual condition
I committed to counseling to restore my faith in Christ
for several months I underwent counseling
until I met my future wife Hazel
who is way way way better than my ex
not only that, she was saved by grace
and 2 months later God gave her to me in marriage
until now we are still so happy together
even in times of hardships, ridicules from my family (because I’m chinese and she’s not), we still find ways to praise God and end up being so blessed to be with each other
I never thought I’d find someone better than my ex
but God had other plans
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“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? ” 2 Cor 6:14